As for me, I am the latter.
Most people spent around an average of RM10K for a one-day wedding. That number sends shivers to my bone and I wonder how did people even manage a RM30K wedding ceremony. You could pay for a house deposit with that kind of money.
My husband does not come from a high-income family, nor was he anywhere in the middle-income. He lived with his single mother and 5 other siblings, one of them is married and stayed together as well with their 4 year old son.
The moment I met him during my first part-time job in 7 eleven Shah Alam, I was astonished by his personality. I never met an independent and responsible man like him, with a tragic background. Even my father was not as responsible as him. Else, why would I waste my time working a part-time while I was studying? Multi-tasking is not an easy job. Luckily, my grades are not effected.
We met in Dec 2017, and started to make a promise in 2018 where we will get married by 2020. However, by 2019, we decided to get married earlier than planned. No idea why but my guts told me to get it done as soon as possible. (Only now I know why - the Corona outbreak).
We tried to settle anything that we could in the meantime, like going to the wedding course (kursus perkahwinan), getting HIV check and filled up some form. The funny thing is, we do not have even RM1000 in our account to start planning the ceremony. How in the world could we get at least RM10K?
I did some Math by only listing the necessary. And found out that, we can actually do with just RM5K. We did not rent any hall, or mosque, or catering. We planned it to be held in my house, the akad nikah as well as a simple kenduri by cooking our own food. It is actually very simple. Luckily my parents are not that picky either.
The date was set on November 9. I purposely choose that date because we were on our semester break and it was Maulidur Rasul at that time. How fortunate.
Only 2 months before our wedding was he (my husband) able to get a job. He worked as a full-time Foodpanda delivery. Foodpanda gets their paycheck every week so it is easier for us to collect the money. He did his best to get the money for our wedding and I am in charge of the budget.
I made a budget list using Excel to keep track of where our money goes and how much should we use. RM3000 was allocated for the food and tent. My parents handled those so I just gave the money to them. They hire 2-3 workers to help with the cooking and serving food.
We use the other RM2000± for our own necessities like clothes, accessories, wedding ring, hantaran and goodies bags. I don't plan to invite guest more than 200, therefore it is easier for us to manage.
My husband worked day and night, under the hot sun or rain, risking his health and life to provide me with the money. He started working early in the morning and finished around midnight. I can tell that he was exhausted even if he never showed it. Therefore, I provided him with my support and motivation by talking to him, give him gratitude and thank him to help him ease up.
We did not spend a lot on our clothes and accessories, not even the hantaran. The total for the hantaran was less than RM300 for both party and our attire were around RM500-RM600. I do kept the receipt but I think I lost it somewhere.
The funny thing about my outfit was that, it is the same outfit that I had been eyeing for a few months in Instagram. Talk about Law of Attraction😂
The rest of the money was used to buy goodies bags and some sweets for our guest. I designed a cute design to be printed on the goodies bag, which cost RM15 per 100 bags. I ordered 200 bags, totaling up to RM30. I even designed my own wedding card invitation, because I can. (And it save cost). Plus, I can designed it to my taste and liking.
We kept the wedding ceremony as simple as possible and using whatever we had rather than buying it. I do not want to burden my future husband with extra expenses. He did his best and I am very proud of him. I never regret having to spend the rest of my life with him.
Our preparation went well, even with only less than 2 months of preparation. Our budget were about RM5000 - RM6000 and we managed to cater to every guest that came. It was a wonderful moment for us and I will forever treasure it.
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